How to NOT Make New Year's Resolutions

It’s funny, isn’t it, the way we all wait until Jan 1st to start anew.  New gym memberships, new morning and bedtime routines, cleanses, diets and fasts.  But why start a brand new year in that way? Why put ourselves under so much strain and pressure?  Why set ourselves up to fail?  That sounds a little pessimistic, but did you know that only something like 8% of people who make New Year’s Resolutions actually stick to them?  It’s not a wonder, considering the T&Cs.  There seems to be some kind of resolution rule book which says we either have to give something ‘bad’ up, add something ‘good’ in and all round become a better person.  Well I’m calling B.S.  How about this....  Don’t make a New Year’s Resolution this year.  It’s actually quite liberating.  

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But what will you do instead?  It seems a shame not to mark the turning of a new year in some way, doesn’t it?

First off, look back at all you have achieved in the past year and give yourself a giant pat on the back.

Secondly, don’t make it a big thing.  I used to write nearly a full-page list of all the resolutions I was going to keep in the coming year and it would end up as plans for a complete life overhaul.  No kidding that I only managed to start about one, which I ended up ‘breaking’ pretty shortly afterwards.  Ugh, even the terminology makes me shiver.  Resolution.  Rules.  Breaking. 

Life MOTs are always good to do, at any time of year, a new year being as good a time as any.  Assess what worked for you in the past year and what didn’t.  No one needs extra life clutter – if you’ve been forcing yourself to go to the gym but hating every second, then stop.  Find some other form of exercise - there are plenty.  On the flip side, if you’ve been doing something that you really enjoy, can you find the time to do more of it?  A dance class that you’ve been taking, cooking lessons, reading.  I’m all for creating more enjoyment in life.

One new thing that I am going to try this coming year is to plan something with my boyfriend for each month.  Little or big, it doesn’t matter.  Quality time is the main ingredient; something that we don’t get enough of.  12 things to look forward to… That’s 12 reasons to be bloody happy on Jan 1st!

I try to live by doing things that are sustainable and achievable.  No shock treatment needed.  If there was one way to sum up my new year, it would be to look at is as a window to move forward, not start over.

An extremely Happy New Year to you all.  Thank you for your support in 2015.  May 2016 be a brilliant year for each and every one of us!

How do you mark the beginning of a new year?  Are you one of the 8% that manages to keep their resolutions?  Or do you have something different up your sleeve?  I’d love to hear what you do…