I’ve talked about FOMO, now it’s time to look at the flipside. JOMO, or the Joy of Missing Out is the feeling of happiness and joy you feel when you’re NOT at the party/part of the club, but instead, doing something on your tod. I actually relate to JOMO a lot more than FOMO...
Have you ever said no to something because you were ill/skint/it was too much hassle/you just didn’t want to? But rather than being sad/annoyed/jealous that you’re not able to join in, you’re secretly happy and look forward to the time alone. That’s the JOY of Missing Out.
It’s a bit of a guilty pleasure that I wish was less guilty. Why do we feel the need to do something just because we’ve been asked, or be part of something because everybody else is? I say it’s time to embrace JOMO…
HOW TO EMBRACE JOMO
CREATE THE OPPORTUNITY FOR JOMO
Say no more often. I always feel like I have to give a detailed reason about why I can’t go to something, but it’s OK just to stop at ‘Thank you for the invite but I can’t make it’.
IT’S ALL ABOUT YOU
Try not to spend your time alone flicking through social media, wishing you were there. Social media will ALWAYS feel as if you’re missing out. Watch a movie, read a book, cull your wardrobe, take a walk. Whatever it is, make sure it’s about you.
MAKE TIME FOR TIME ALONE
One of my favourite things to do is go to a restaurant/café alone. I people watch, read a book, write my thoughts and add to my bucket list. I can spend hours. I often don’t tell people I’m going (they usually offer to join you, which is not the point). It feels like such a treat ordering food that’s just for you. The waiters are always extra friendly. If you’re lucky, you’ll get a booth seat or an armchair so you can really hunker down. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy just thinking about it.
WHY TIME ALONE IS IMPORTANT
Do you ever feel like Mel Gibson in What Women Want? He can’t hear himself think for all the noise coming from the thoughts of every woman around him. We seem to operate at this level of incoming information all the time, unless we’re asleep. By shutting just one of those feeds down, closing your eyes for instance, the noise becomes less. Move to a quiet area and it’s less again. And when the peripheral noise is less, our internal voice can speak up. Listening to your internal voice is important for your health and wellbeing, for your relationships, for productivity and creativity, for your confidence. Without mine, i find myself in a total spin.
This time of year usually means that weekends are booked up for months to come, so if there was ever a time to schedule some JOMO, it would be now.